Topic: How to battle with heavy ranged enemy?

Actually, I have played 330+day on expert iron man mode, and found it very painful to fight with brigand and goblin, especially goblin, I have not a method to make them charge, they just wait till I charge and get attacked twice before I am able to attack on a prepared and linked shield wall.
Things get worse when in a bad terrain, like they are up hills and I am down hill, I just dont know what to do. I cannot SL to change the terrain, if I retreat to a plain area, they wont follow. The only thing I can do is to retreat and reenter to change terrain and suffer mood penalty or just risking my brothers’ lives to make them all charge and every backrow to only carry kite shield but do nothing because they are more vulnerable to arrows and bolts.
Thing get even worse when faced goblin, if there were only one entrance to go up hill, this battle can never win, because, the charging man will be twined every turn before they act(the shaman always has more initiative).
All above makes ironman almost unplayble, if I trained archers to wipe out brigand marksman the only situation faced is even my 100+ ranged skill archer have only 40+ chance to hit marksman and this always miss. Then I have to use quick hand perk to change to a kite shield. But carrying a shield is very harmful to initiative(-8 to initia and more to next turn), this demand high investment in initia attribute to ensure I get acted before marks man. IF not so, my poor little two archer should get to test their luck. All my archers get up to 40+ ranged defense and covered by frontine, but most of them died because they have to testing their lucky against 6-8 enemy arrows, among which 2 to hit head will claim his death, and this is not a low rate occasion.

Due to above, THE MOST CONCERNING IS, I found if I donot put archers among my 12 battle line or if I donot shoot enemy archers down, they wont make a charge and just make shield wall and wait! This is unfair! They not afraid of death, but it is quite hard to train an experienced archer at current edition! I personally now just get every man holding a shield when facing brigand and goblin, no backrow, no polearm, no ranged brother, this is not a healthy playing way.

I just wish to get some help to counter brigand and goblin:
1.how to make them charge, if they charge, I would attack them once every turn not get hit twice in a row in the first 2 turn.
2.how to survive in a bad terrain? This is very harsh!
3.if above 200+days, goblin get even invincible in ironman mode, 30 40 of them, 10+ carrying net, 2shaman, almost unbeaten, if I manage to get close, 4 dagger penetrate will claim my death, I am kinda curious, why should dagger penetration armor exist? my brother only have 60-100 HP, I am not a orc, 4 in a row will successfull kill me, and I can do nothing within the tides of enemy.

Or just say, ironman is not the mode the games should be played?

Here is my obituary column, can see nearly every man is death being shot.