1. Not adequate indeed. It was a couple of mods about pause:
Pause after leaving town (https://www.nexusmods.com/battlebrothers/mods/39)
Mount n Blade Pause (https://www.nexusmods.com/battlebrothers/mods/55)
I consider second one the most useful though not tested them on latest versions.
2. I’m not sure what are you talking about but I still occur enemy already shown on global map being “unknown” in before-battle decision window.
3. As for adaptive enemy equipping this may be not bad at all or even more realistic than it looks. Before going to battle player supposed to change brothers’ equipment to choose the better gear to fight particular enemy so why can’t enemies do the same?